What to do when you just can’t win

By Bridgette Petrino | self

Jul 20

Damned if you do, damned if you don’t

Have you ever felt this way? Like, you really want to be successful and you are trying really hard, but it’s just not working?

Oftentimes, as a mom, I feel like everything is this confusing oxymoron.

Like, we aren’t supposed to “let ourselves go,” because that is considered lazy. But, then if we spend too much time on our appearance, we are vain, prissy, and called a MILF.

Or, we are on our phone at the playground so we get judged for not playing with our kids. But, if we hover over our kids at the playground, then we are considered a helicopter parent.

Do we let our babies co-sleep or cry it out?

Should we breastfeed or bottle-feed?

Do we work full-time or stay home with our kids?

Sometimes it feels like we just can’t fucking win, and that’s when the self-doubt starts creeping in. Maybe even worse, it completely takes over.

And then we start hating life and hating everyone.

Being successful comes from within

But, the reason we feel that way is because there is a very valid justification for us to make these seemingly very different, personal choices.

The thing is that these seemingly opposing choices aren’t really that different at all. They all have one major thing in common, and that is that it’s what’s best for us, at that moment in time.

Kids are different. Families are different. Circumstances are different. And, we are capable of making educated, conscientious decisions for us. We don’t need outside validation for that.

So, we are only “damned if you do, damned if you don’t” if we let others convince us of it.

You validate YOU and suddenly you are free. Click To Tweet

PS – Today I celebrate my 100th blog post!!

This is a milestone for me because 100 articles ago, I didn’t consider myself a writer.

Only 100 articles ago I really didn’t know WHAT I wanted to do with this website, I just knew that I wanted to move forward.

And, I did. I moved forward imperfectly. With uncertainty. Improving every day. With every post.

I didn’t have SEO, or backlinks, thousands of followers, or even a service to sell.

It was 100 articles ago that I only wrote for my own website. Now, I have been featured on a number of AMAZING sites.

It’s been 100 articles and I am now a writer. A boss. A coach. An encourager. A call you out on your BS-er.

My message is this: Do what you love. Do it every day. Even when you don’t feel like it, even when it’s not perfect, and even when you aren’t sure. Surround yourself with the right people who believe for you when you can’t believe anymore. Because, yes you actually CAN have it all. And, thank YOU!

Be the FIRST PERSON to send me an email (bridgette@bridgettepetrino.com) with the subject “100” and I will mail you out your very own set of my self-care cards for FREEEEE!!!!! Thanks for reading. <3 


About the Author

Bridgette is Founder and CEO of Mommy Needs a Timeout. She empowers moms to reconnect with their identities OUTSIDE of being a mom, without the guilt.

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