Today’s post is mostly questions. Because, well, I am curious.
Have you unfriended Facebook friends? Have you been unfriended? And, is it just me, or does this election seem to have brought more tension than in the past?
I’ve seen all types of Facebook posts leading up to this election. Some funny, some valid, but most angry. It’s kind of scary.
And, at this point I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve seen a post say something like… “If you support _____, you can unfriend me now.” Um, okay….
I’ll admit, I am fairly new to Facebook. So, maybe these types of posts were just as commonplace back in 2012. But, I have a hunch that they weren’t. This time feels different.
Most of us go on Facebook to be social. We want to know where our friends are hanging out, we want to see adorable family photos, we want tips and inspiration, we want to support causes, we want to laugh and be entertained, and most of all, we want to watch someone make a delicious nacho dip in under 30 seconds in a glass bowl with a wooden spoon.
What we don’t want is to feel attacked, pressured, or threatened. Especially because of who we support in this upcoming election. It’s a personal decision. It’s our right as Americans.
I’ve already decided on who I am voting for and, I think most others have as well. At this point, if a new story comes out on WikiLeaks, or if someone posts something really witty on Facebook about why I should vote for a particular candidate, it’s still highly unlikely that I am going to change my mind.
So, before you unfriend that person on Facebook ask yourself “why?”
Is it out of anger? Jealousy? Fear?
I’ll admit, I’ve unfriended Facebook friends. It’s become shockingly routine for me to have to block people on Facebook because they are sending me creepy messages. #canyounot
I’ve also chosen to take breaks from friend’s newsfeeds by “unfollowing” for a time because I just needed a break from their posts.
But, publicly slandering or shaming because of a difference of opinion is completely different.
If you find yourself unfriending out of anger and you really want to persuade someone to see your point of view, try love instead.
Posting opinions on Facebook is easy. Anyone can do it. Having real conversations that demonstrate true concern and connection. That’s hard. And, that’s why it doesn’t happen as often as it should.Hatred and anger stir up more hatred and anger. Love and compassion generates understanding. Click To Tweet
Evaluate your emotions before unfriending. Unfriending someone oftentimes says more about you than the person that you are unfriending. And, check out my Tiny Talks Shop chat with Nancy Hornback about unfriending on Facebook because of political views.
PS – Ain’t got no time for the drama? Me either. Reconnect to who YOU are without feeling guilty.