It’s that time of year where we start thinking about New Year’s Resolutions… But, instead of thinking about the goals that we want to set this year, I want to think about why we might not be achieving those goals.
We can set goals all day long. But, what’s the point if we aren’t going to achieve them?
So, before we go crazy with all of the things that we want to do in 2017, let’s first make sure that we aren’t sabotaging our success.
So, we start working towards our goals, and then we realize it’s hard work. But, we don’t really want to admit that, so we make excuses.
And there are three types of excuses that we often use:
A) We blame others. Do you find yourself thinking: if I had a better family, if my boss would give me a raise, then I could/would….
B) We blame ourselves. We say things like… If I were prettier, if I were thinner, if I made more money, then I could/would…
C) We blame our circumstances. If I had a better upbringing, if I had better luck, if I had more time, then I could/would…
These are all excuses. #sorrynotsorry
There are endless examples of people who did the “impossible.” Who were told they could never do something, but ended up succeeding anyway. The same goes for you and me.
It’s easier to blame someone or something, than admit that we actually don’t FEEL like doing the work necessary to get that promotion, or to move into our dream house, or to find more free time. OUCH.
Maybe, deep down, we actually don’t really think we deserve to have that promotion. So, we stay stuck. We sabotage ourselves.
Here’s an example. Let’s say we start a diet to lose weight. We will do really great with eating and working out, and when we get close to a breakthrough we allow ourselves to cheat. Are we going easy on ourselves or are we sabotaging our success? Maybe somewhere in us we don’t believe we are good enough to be a fit and healthy person? Hmm.
Doing something different from what you normally do – because let’s face it, most of us are creatures of habit – may cause some eyebrow raising and judgment from our friends and family.
Yup. We all do it. We worry what others will think of us.
That is why it is critical to surround yourself with people who encourage you to reach your goals instead of staying stuck. Stuck is comfortable. Stuck is easy. Getting unstuck takes courage and vulnerability. And, you most likely need some people around you who are going to push you out of your comfort zone in order to get unstuck.
It all comes down to mindset. The belief that we can. That we are worth it. That we are succeeding despite our excuses and reasons why we can’t. That we will keep going even when others pass judgment.
So, what are your goals for 2017?
Before you even start coming up with a plan for achieving them, make sure you aren’t sabotaging them first.
And, be sure to check out last week’s Tiny Talks’ Shop on how our fear of other people’s opinions hold us back from our dreams and goals. And, I reveal what I’ve been holding back on doing for fear that others will think I am crazy!
PS – Are you done with making excuses and ready to level up in life? Yeah, me too. Beyond. Done. Well, you might want to check out the membership group.