If you are a mom, you know exactly what the term “mom guilt” means.
I am all too familiar with this term. Mom guilt was practically a way of life for me a few years ago, but, then everything changed.
Let me explain…
I had twins almost a decade ago, and I poured everything into my kids. Completely neglecting myself, my husband, my friends, my career (which I didn’t like anyway, but that’s another story) – I mean, everything.
After doing this for YEARS, I had a breakdown.
I ended up in bed, depressed, wondering who the hell I was and what the hell happened.
A good friend of mine encouraged me to start counseling and I did.
I went through a year of intense counseling and personal development. I literally cried everyday, and I almost lost everything. It was the darkest, but best, thing that ever happened to me.
Towards the end of this “awakening” that I had, my counselor had told me that when I first came in I looked like a deer in headlights. And, I was a deer in headlights.
Up until that point, I had used every coping mechanism there was to deal. I minimized, rationalized, and suppressed until I just couldn’t hold it all together anymore.
So, that is when “Mommy Needs a Timeout” was born. Because I realized that I was not alone. When I started to share my story with other moms, it really resonated with them.
A couple months ago, before the launch of my first program, I surveyed dozens of moms and I asked them questions like “what do you do for fun?”
And, many told me simple things like sewing, reading, walking, crafting…
But, then when I asked how OFTEN they do these simple things, the answers were hardly ever or never.
Even worse, some moms couldn’t REMEMBER what they did for fun. That. Was. Me.
And, neglecting myself brought me from a place of being a confident woman to someone who’s life was ruled by guilt.
Now, instead of being a deer in headlights, I am a woman on a mission.
My purpose is to teach moms that they are enough, to tell moms that they are doing a good job, and to empower moms to learn to take time for themselves again – MINUS the guilt.
As moms, we often feel guilty, or like we are being judged if we miss a class party for our kids. Or, if the birthday cupcakes aren’t Pinterest-worthy.
I even used to brag about how long it had been since I had been on a date with my husband. WRONG.
I am going to give you one simple step that you can take towards relieving “mom guilt.” And, that is to start making yourself a priority again.
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I know what you’re thinking.
But, I don’t have time. And, it doesn’t really matter. I will get back to all of that… one day.
I am here to tell you to do it today. Take 15 minutes and do something for you.
You are worth it. And, you can have it all.
No more excuses. This is too important.
PS – Have you taken the Brave & Bold challenge yet? Your life is waiting.