We all know how important it is to forgive others in order to move on from the past.
Forgiveness is a challenge. It can take years, or sometimes even a lifetime or longer to forgive. But, many of us find it more difficult to forgive ourselves than to forgive others.
Unforgiveness creates anger, resentment, stress, sleep issues, and even physical problems. What someone did to us may become so engrained in our thoughts, that we actually end up repeating that same offense ourselves. Having the power to forgive gives us the power to move out of the past and into the present.
Forgiveness gives us the power to move out of the past and into the present and gives us control over our lives.
“He who controls the past controls the future. He who controls the present controls the past.” ~George Orwell
Living life with unforgiveness of ourselves is like living life believing that there is a looming hammer over our heads waiting to drop down at any moment.
When we release ourselves and no longer feel like we are going to be punished spontaneously and brutally, we release that throbbing worry and live a life of freedom.
We are all human, which means that we all make mistakes. It’s inevitable. It’s been said that the only things that are certain in life are death and taxes, but I am going to add one more lifetime guarantee: screwing up.
We will all have to forgive ourselves at some point for making a mistake, doing something wrong, being human, and simply screwing up.
We can’t give what we don’t have. In the same way that we are guaranteed to make mistakes, those who we have relationships with will make mistakes as well. We can forgive others once we forgive ourselves, and that results in healing and peace.
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong.” Ghandi
We don’t always need to be strong, but we always need to be growing. Growth and development should never stop. And, I think that’s what Ghandi meant in this quote. By constantly growing, we can achieve our goals and create a life that we love.
We need to relentlessly eliminate the unforgiveness in our lives if we want to be free. Freedom is priceless. And, living a life a grace, mercy, and compassion starts by directing that to ourselves first.
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