How to Deal When Friends & Family Don’t Support You

By Bridgette Petrino | empowerment

Jan 07


When our friends and family aren’t supportive of our goals and choices, it can be very frustrating and disappointing.

We tend to expect that those who are closest to us would be the first ones to support us – no matter what.

But, oddly enough, it doesn’t always work out that way.


Well, first of all, we are all creatures of habit. And, when someone is trying to shake up the norm, our first instinct is to generally resist that change.

So, my first piece of advice is to try not to take it personally.

And secondly, understand that many times our friends and family just don’t “get” it.

Let me explain…

A couple of weeks ago, my family and I took our annual trip into the city to see The Nutcracker. We look forward to this event all year long. Well, at least I do!

It is a beautiful production. Live orchestra. The top dancers in the country. A beautiful theater. It’s amazing.

But, this year, when we sat in our seats, there were two men behind us who had mentioned that this was their first time attending the event. They seemed apprehensive, but a family member had purchased tickets for them, so of course, they came.

As soon as the show started they began talking (which is a BIG no-no in this theater,) complaining and asking each other if and how they could sneak out.

I was surprised. How could there be people in that theater who value this production so much that they spent hundreds of dollars to attend, and at the same time there were others who got tickets for free and found absolutely no value whatsoever in the show?


What a revelation this was that not everyone is going to get it. Not everyone is going to get you. Not everyone is going to support you. And, that’s okay.

Now, this doesn’t mean that we don’t need support. We do. Lots of support. We just need to find the people who do get it. Who will support us? Who will find value in what we are trying to achieve?

Then, surround yourself with those people.

And, it might not be your friends and family. But, you need to find someone. Because I promise, the road to achieving your goals will be bumpy. You can’t do it alone.

In fact, you might even want to join this community. We are moms, we are real, we are awesome. So, enter your email below.

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So, ask yourself, who is encouraging you and who is bringing you down?

Then act accordingly.

If you aren’t sure, then you might want to check this out. We are a group of motivated, amazing, no-drama, keep-it-real moms who are supporting and encouraging each other on this bumpy road.

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About the Author

Bridgette is Founder and CEO of Mommy Needs a Timeout. She empowers moms to reconnect with their identities OUTSIDE of being a mom, without the guilt.

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