What makes you uncomfortable? Maybe its large crowds of people? Or, public speaking? Is it making new friends? Changing up your routine?
Many things make me uncomfortable… More things than I’d like to admit. But, I’ve learned that instead of avoiding these situations we instead need to face them in order to grow.
The best way for me to describe this is to use the analogy of working out. You can’t build muscle without resistance. If you are trying to improve your body and your health, working out never gets easier. If you are just maintaining, then working out can be pretty comfortable. But, when you are looking for improvement, it’s always challenging. And, the resistance necessary for improvement can be physical or mental.
Mental resistance is known as fear. Fear of rejection. Fear of embarrassment. Fear of failure. But, in order to improve yourself, you will have to experience discomfort.
Personally, I tend to be introverted, somewhat of a perfectionist and my list of fears is a mile long. After a lifetime of letting my fears guide my decisions I started to feel frustrated. I realized that I wasn’t quite where I had expected to be in life. Yes, I have a beautiful family and I am so grateful for that, but I felt that I wanted to make a bigger impact outside of my little world in the suburbs of Philadelphia. Now I realize that my purpose – and your purpose – is so much bigger than the here and now.
This past year I have gone out of my comfort zone more times than I can remember. It wasn’t always fun. If I’m being honest, most of the time it sucked. The immediate result was usually me feeling scared, sometimes even wanting to throw up, many times feeling completely rejected and I’ve even had moments when I considered giving up. But, the funny thing is that the long-term result is exactly the opposite of the short-term. Getting out of my comfort zone has made me much more confident, less fearful and for the first time in my life I am seeing things happening that I never could have imagined.
You see, it’s like the saying goes: “In order to get something you’ve never had, you have to do something you’ve never done.” And, “nothing changes if nothing changes.”
We all know this.
By stepping out of my comfort zone – for just one year – here are just a few things that have happened.
So, I encourage you to start living outside of your comfort zone. Today. Right now. Doing one thing that scares you a little bit everyday will put you in a place that you won’t even recognize one year from now. I personally want to help more people and maybe even you. If you are looking to make a change with your career or your financial situation or have the urge to do something bigger and you want to help others along the way send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org We might be able to help each other out with a few projects that I have going on.
I can’t wait to hear your stories of how stepping out of your comfort zone has improved your life.