Are you trustworthy?

By Bridgette Petrino | healing

May 03

Are you trustworthy-

Question: Do you have that one girlfriend that you can trust with everything? She knows when something is wrong and you can always count on her for the best advice?

We can’t underestimate the importance of having a friend that will tell you the truth – in love and kindness, of course. This is someone who you can be honest and real with and show your flaws and mistakes without feeling judged.

Personally, I’ve built up a pretty big wall around me. My level of trust was very low for a long time. Maybe even non-existent. I’ve mentioned before that I have many acquaintances and few friends. Meaning, I have very few people who really know me. And, after I became a mom the few friendships that I had were put on the back burner while I was in survival mode taking care of my twins.

What have I learned?

  1. You don’t need a ton of friends.
  2. Your close friends might change a bit as your life circumstances change. You will always have those friends that you may not speak to often, and when you do it’s like no time has passed. However, that “one person” may come later in life.
  3. Don’t put your authentic relationships on the back burner. Ever.
  4. If you are missing that “one person” in your life, it may be because you are not that person to others.

Remember that you are the average of the 5 people that you spend the most time with. I built a wall around me and there was no gate for anyone to come in, nor for me to go out. I’ve realized that trying to be everything to everyone and never letting anyone in has weighed heavily on me – to the point of cracking. When I think back to the “red flags” that signaled trust was missing in my life here is what I think of: people pleaser, perfectionist, micro manager. Does this sound familiar to you? These are all signs of a lack of trust. So, I have slowly started building a gate. Boundaries are absolutely necessary (don’t trust everyone), but so are relationships. Find the right people to trust. When you do, you will find that your stress level goes down because you know you are not in this alone.

So, tell me this: Do you have that one person? Are you that one person to someone?

If not, maybe it’s time to start building a gate.

 

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About the Author

Bridgette is Founder and CEO of Mommy Needs a Timeout. She empowers moms to reconnect with their identities OUTSIDE of being a mom, without the guilt.

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