Are you tired of being stuck in the cycle of facing the same, old problems, but not sure how to change?
That was me.
We only change when staying the same is more painful than changing. I was treading water for a while. Keeping afloat, but not easily. Then, in 2014 I had a breakdown. I was drowning and I had no choice but to change things.
I took everything off my plate and I started fresh. I reinvented myself. I lost some friends along the way. I gained some new ones too. I stopped doing some of things that I thought I loved. And, I found new activities to love that benefited my family and I even more.
If you are feeling lost, overwhelmed, exhausted, and frustrated, I understand.
I understand because I was there.
Unfortunately, avoiding problems doesn’t make them go away. It was the most difficult, but the most rewarding, event that I have ever been through. My breakdown forced me to begin my journey of intense personal development. I went through counseling, I read dozens of self-help books, began exercising, meditation, and overall learning how to take care of myself and make myself a priority again.
Questions were the most powerful agent for change for me.
I began to evaluate everything. Who were my friends? Why was I friends with them? What activities was I involved in? Why? Did I enjoy those activities? How did I spend my time? Why did I dress the way that I did?
The answers to these questions were somewhat shocking. I had never analyzed these simple concepts, and I realized that many times I was doing things because I thought I “had to,” or that “I should,” or because I wanted approval from others.
None of those answers were good reasons to do something. In fact, they were horrible reasons. And, I ended up resentful and stressed.
Once you’ve questioned everything, decide what needs to go. It’s okay to say good-bye. You don’t need permission to grow and change. Actually, you can start right now. Set boundaries where necessary. Stop doing the things that don’t add value to yourself and others.
Now you can slowly add back in the things that do add value to your life and the lives of others. The key is slowly. You may not have time for everything and you don’t want to get overwhelmed. So, add one thing at a time. There is no rush.
This is what freedom looks like. Living your life on your terms, in a way that honors you and others, all while taking responsibility for your decisions and actions.
As it turns out, having a breakdown back in 2014 was a blessing in disguise. Since then, I’ve figured out how do to all the things I can’t wait to share with you! Things like building meaningful relationships, taking time for yourself, and creating a life that you are excited about every morning when you wake up.
I actually wiped my slate clean and started over. I stopped volunteering, working, everything so I could actually pick and choose who and what I wanted in my life. I realized I let everyone and everything into my life that came my way without ever questioning whether or not I wanted them or it. That’s not healthy.
Though I still have goals to achieve and mountains to climb, I’m only where I am because I surrounded myself with the right people and followed the guidance of some great mentors.
Now I am helping others do the same.
If you’re ready to take the journey, I’m ready to walk the path with you.
“The undeniable reality is that how well you do in life and in business depends not only on what you do and how you do it, your skills and competencies, but also on who is doing it with you or to you. Who is helping you? Who is fighting you? Who is strengthening you or resisting and diminishing you? These people are literally making you who you are. Who is helping you build those skills and competencies? Who is tearing them down? Other people do have power in your life, for good or bad. But, what kind of power are others going to have over your life and performance? Are they going to enhance or diminish?”
~Dr. Henry Cloud, The Power of the Other
PS – I am watching moms reinvent themselves right now through the Renew Program, and I am offering private coaching as well. For details on Renew, go to www.bridgettepetrino.com/renew. For the coaching program go to www.bridgettepetrino.com/private-coaching